Like every child in India who is brought up, in a caring and sharing household, right from child hood we have been always taught about to care for others. Be it be parents, elders, children or even your own brother or sister, we have been taught to share things with everyone. Sometimes, this feeling of sharing and caring becomes so much in India, that we seldom care about “ourselves”.
The quantum of work which we get tied up here, right from managing every part of work, be it bank work, paying bills, paying taxes, upbringing kids, managing old parents, their medical ailments and managing home and office work altogether.
The whole environment and people around us including the thoughts and emotions of people revolve around the concept of “WE”, “US” and “OURSELVES”…
Being grown up in such an environment, there comes a day in most of our lives who work in MNC’s to visit onsite once in a while. Surprisingly, the person whom we are in India, who is grown up around 25 years in this pollution and the mass and the ideologies of “SHARE” and “US” take a transition in the mindset..
As soon as we land up in any country especially United States, I would say…the thoughts of the people over there, their life style, their living also merges and mixes into the air… and the more the number of years we live over there…our mindset starts drifting from the “WE” environment to an “I”.
We somehow start concentrating more on our “OWN” selves…and we talk in a not so caring mode sitting away from families…we think of looking and spending on and somehow a sense of “selfishness” takes over us…
We don’t forget our parents, or the inner character of “SHARING” in us, which is a natural instinct. But, in the urge of settling our own problems in a new country, where everything is in awe, we think that merely sending money would help our parents to get rid of their issues in India, be it be medical ailment or any financial crisis.
But, the reality is it is not. The parents themselves, though proud in a way by our achievements and proudly say to everyone that we are working in US, the loneliness they have, the moral support they need, the helping hand when they fall cannot substitute for anything with we being with them at the right time..
This being on one side, the good side of it is being alone is that you get more matured. Not being inside the cocoon of your parents protecting you and no known people around you. We think of how to solve our own problems and become a good decision – maker for own self.
Being abroad and being alone brings out the best and the worst side of one’s own self. The people, their thoughts, their intentions also reflects in the air , around everyone…You can see and observe such transitions when you “listen” to yourself…
There is “Something in the Air”……or is it something happening innerself???!!??!!?
